It seems that you need to try on some different types of condoms. Of course condoms will stretch to fit girth, but sometimes they’re not long enough and might be uncomfortably tight. My best suggestion is look beyond Lifestyles and Durex—they’re a little “one size fits all.” If you want some different kinds of condoms, try showing up to our SHC events! We sometimes give out “designer condoms” for prizes or just for showing up. 

A funny, sweet, interesting short about the difficulties of negotiating kink and consent-play.

Loyal tumblr patrons,

Sorry it’s been so long since our last post. The holidays have caught up with us, and we’re up and running again (although I, Emma, will be abroad in Brazil, studying women’s sexual health!! and doing some “research” of my own…) so expect moar tumbln in the coming weeks. 

I wanted to tell you all about a place near and dear to my heart and my vagina. It’s a little shop based in Boston and the Bay Area in CA called Good Vibrations, and it’s the most open, non-judgmental, non-scary, sex-positive, safe-feeling sex store I’ve been to. If you’re like me, sex shops have always intimidated you a little bit, made you feel inexperienced or overwhelmed by the sheer number and range of toys and fetishes and lube brands / flavors / elasticities / bottle designs. They can be sketchy places, too, or especially feel that way if you’re new to sex, or to sex with toys / props / whatever. 

Good Vibes is a different story. It’s got an extensive collection of womyn-centered porn, a big collection of books (which I, sexuality nerd that I am, always flock to first) a huuuuuge range of vibrators (both of the huuuuge variety and the bunny-clit-sparkly-thing variety, and of the high-quality rechargeable variety, and the super-intense-g-spot variety and the this-is-good-to-start-with variety…) and they’re incredibly helpful, knowledgeable and nonjudgmental about helping you to understand or explain toys. There’s stuff there for people who are into / interested in BDSM, tons of different lubes and condoms, alternatives to sex (massage oil, anyone?) and dildos / strap-ons galore. They celebrate all sexualities and forms of sexual expression, most definitely including solo sexual expression… (this is one myth I want to fight with all my might: that you can’t be sexually active / have a fulfilling sex life without a partner)… They’re super women-centric, too, which doesn’t mean that there isn’t great stuff there for guys, but they are mostly staffed by women and seriously committed to women’s sexual pleasure. In other words, it’s a great place to start to conquer the idea that women don’t belong in sex shops; that they don’t desire games or toys or good lube or penis pasta (don’t deny it — even if you’re not so into them in real life, they’re so cute in pasta form) or fem-centric porn. Part of leading an empowered sex life, both with partners and on your own, is to feel okay, even good, about exploring these things.

So if you’re in Boston or Cali in the near future, drop in on Good Vibrations… or check out their website (the link’s listed here), which seems allllmost as sex-positive and informative as they are in person.

Happy sexy time!!! (it keeps you warm during the frigid underside of January)

Speaking of intimate alternatives to sex… happy holidays everyone!!! <3

Slight chances, but slim changes of getting pregnant if there is no actual contact of ejaculate with the vagina. There are certain situations that could increase your risk though, such as getting some on your hands and then masturbating, etc. Just be careful to not exchange fluids or get semen down there and the chances are pretty low. 

Hey! I’ll weigh in too — the other thing to keep in mind is that if you’re having intercourse without a condom and without birth control, and he’s pulling out to ejaculate, there is still a chance that you could get pregnant! This is because there can be some semen in precum, the fluid that comes out of his penis from the beginnings of erection to ejaculation. So withdrawal is not a totally foolproof method — we definitely recommend that if you’re having intercourse and you’re trying to prevent sex, use condoms or other forms of birth control.

You’re [almost] done! Almost home! Almost celebrating a holiday, if you’re doing that. Either way, we SHCs wish that you have a wonderful, restful, regenerative break. And some good sexy times as well. Let us know if you have any questions by using our “ask” button.

pplm:

snowstorminjuly:

lemonpoppyseedladyhusband:

a-blog-called-everything:

okadin:

Don’t knock masturbation - it’s sex with someone I love

Woody Allen

This applies to people of all sexes - it’s a natural and healthy expression of human sexuality, not something to be ashamed of or embarrassed about.

I like this ad, just wish it didn’t only feature a penis.

They have one with a vagina, too!

While it’s not quite National Masturbation Month (that’s in May!), there’s never a bad time to correct masturbation myths. The truth is, masturbation is natural, common and safe for both men and women, and it really can have health benefits!

adambortnering - v.intransitive

Definition: being awesome and writing well-treated articles in the Daily Gazette about HIV. 

Other SHCs: GET IN THIS. (Comment section.) 

Other readers: read our comments, and of course, add your own! 

Let’s talk/sing/rap about STDs!!!!

Be safe - not sorry! 

9 PM in Shane Lounge. We’ll be talking about what we’re looking for and what would make a good application, we’ll be eager to answer any questions about the app or our work, and we’d love to put faces to names of people who are interested in applying. 

Please Bring: 

• Yo Best Swagga
• A Pen

Do you think you know a lot about sex? Do you think you can learn a lot about sex? Can you certainly talk a lot about sex? Maybe you’re right to join our team!

The SHCs are beginning our recruitment application process today by making our application available online for your perusal. For those of you considering an application, here are the things we’re looking for: 

• A willingness to start and engage in conversations on campus surrounding sex, sex positivity, and sexual health. 
• An excitement to work in a team of Sexual Health Counselors, attending regular meetings and participating and planning group activities. 
• An inclination to represent our group to others in various forms of at-large and interpersonal interactions, whether through this Tumblr, the Daily Gazette, the Phoenix, conversations at Sharples, or in confidential “reach-outs” from those seeking guidance about sex. 

Here are the things we’re not looking for: 

• A certain purity score or range of sexual experience[s]. 
• Squeamishness talking abut sex. 
• Inappropriate/non-constructive over-sharing. 

Here are things that are certainly a plus: 

• Having access to many different groups on campus, and being able to engage with those groups about sexual practice. 
• Bringing a point of view to the organization you feel like is not represented adequately. 

In order to complete an application, consider following these steps: 

• [OPTIONAL] Attend our information session ON WEDNESDAY, NOVEMBER 30TH AT 9PM IN SHANE LOUNGE It will be soon, probably before finals, so check this site regularly for the date and time. It’s always nice to put a face with a name during the application process. 
• Fill out our application form. We encourage you to write your answers in a Word doc and then transfer them to the form. 
• We’ll be in touch about next steps, including scheduling an interview and the status of your application. 

We’ll also use this site to post a final deadline for the application, so check back frequently. It might be a good idea to get it in earlier rather than later, however. 

If you have any questions about the application process, what it means to be part of our organization, or anything else, feel free to get in touch by either using the “ask” button on this site or sending us an e-mail at swatshc@googlegroups.com . 

Looking forward to reviewing some awesome candidates! 

Stay sexy, 

The Sexual Health Counselors

heteronormative but…lulz